There's a faith that's practiced somewhere in Asia ( I can't remember where exactly) where people are asked to leave their shoes so that someone else may walk in them for a while. This is such a wonderful thing to do. To understand even a little about someone's life we need to get ourselves out of the way. It's so important to offer feedback and not advice.
We all want to be understood and have our own needs met. When we let ourselves be open and really listen we can truly understand what someone else is saying. How many of us have met people who say "I know what you need, you need to do........." almost before we've even said what the issue is?
Many of us have the urge to to be right or seen as someone with a lot of knowledge but all the knowledge in the world is worth nothing if we don't have empathy. When we listen EFT truly comes from the heart.
The first thing a client wants to know is that the therapist can help them with their problem. Not how much knowledge the therapist has, how big their client list is or whether they've used EFT on the Prime Minister - these are of far less importance to the client.
Whatever the client believes they are right. We are their mirror and we need to be as good a mirror we can by offering feedback. Then they can transform before their own eyes. They don't want to have our reflection behind them in them. Would you want to see someone else's reflection in your own mirror? Imagine someone telling you how you should brush your teeth each time.
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Tuesday, 6 January 2009
I've been busy designing a Weight Loss and Food Cravings flier which I've finally completed and taken to the print shop today.
New Year weight loss programmes are big business! I've been studying the market for a while now and keep coming to the same conclusion - any given diet will only work for certain people long term. If they don't have many deeply ingrained negative beliefs around food and their body then they probably will keep the weight off. I know one or two people like this – but they are few and far between.
Why would a diet work for some and not for others? Because one size (or diet) doesn't fit all. Not every body type is suited to the same food. For example, following the Ayurveda principle, eating more brocolli, cabbage and cauliflower in your diet wouldn't be recomended if your constitution is mainly Vata dosha (thin boned) even though these vegetables are classed as health foods. The reason for this is that they produce gas and bloating and will aggravate your dosha.
How many of us have given up chocolate and swore we would never touch another piece only to tuck into a whole bar at the first signs of stress?
This is where EFT can help. It allows us to understand our negative beliefs around food and how we think about our bodies. It also gets rid of the anxiety we feel before we dive into a box of chocolates or take the packet of biscuits out of the cupboard.
My next Weight Loss and Food Cravings workshop takes place here in sunny Brighton on Saturday 31st January 10am to 3pm. It's at Anahata health Clinic, BN2 0JL and costs £45 (£38 concessionary rate). 01273 241204 or 07533 991731 www.emoshift.com
EFT is such a handy tool to have around when we feel stressed because the tapping really does work. The biscuits stay in the cupboard and the chocolate in the chocolate aisle - my local ASDA are going to love me!
New Year weight loss programmes are big business! I've been studying the market for a while now and keep coming to the same conclusion - any given diet will only work for certain people long term. If they don't have many deeply ingrained negative beliefs around food and their body then they probably will keep the weight off. I know one or two people like this – but they are few and far between.
Why would a diet work for some and not for others? Because one size (or diet) doesn't fit all. Not every body type is suited to the same food. For example, following the Ayurveda principle, eating more brocolli, cabbage and cauliflower in your diet wouldn't be recomended if your constitution is mainly Vata dosha (thin boned) even though these vegetables are classed as health foods. The reason for this is that they produce gas and bloating and will aggravate your dosha.
How many of us have given up chocolate and swore we would never touch another piece only to tuck into a whole bar at the first signs of stress?
This is where EFT can help. It allows us to understand our negative beliefs around food and how we think about our bodies. It also gets rid of the anxiety we feel before we dive into a box of chocolates or take the packet of biscuits out of the cupboard.
My next Weight Loss and Food Cravings workshop takes place here in sunny Brighton on Saturday 31st January 10am to 3pm. It's at Anahata health Clinic, BN2 0JL and costs £45 (£38 concessionary rate). 01273 241204 or 07533 991731 www.emoshift.com
EFT is such a handy tool to have around when we feel stressed because the tapping really does work. The biscuits stay in the cupboard and the chocolate in the chocolate aisle - my local ASDA are going to love me!
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